Earlier in the week, while I lounged around in my jammies drinking green tea, I watched one of the early morning news programs. And while they where giving a quick once over on everything that was to be a topic on the show, they talked about an upcoming story that they were going to be running on the after effects of raising over indulged children...... It tweaked my curiosity so I stayed tuned.
Apparently the 20 something crowds, who were over indulged as children are experiencing what they now are calling a 'Let Down Period.' I guess is starts to happen when they have to start relying on themselves to find their own ways on making themselves happy. How come this came as a shock to them? The only thing I ever over indulged my children with...... was love, even though the community that I live in believes in more is better and excess is GREAT!
What ever happened to giving gifts at appropriate times and appropriate ages? Or having a child 'earn' them. What is a child who was given a flat screen TV (for their room), a computer in their room, a phone line in their room, a cell phone, all before the age of 12 with a promise of a brand new car at 16 and body piercing going to expect upon High School graduation? I am not saying that we do not have these things in the house for our children to use, but they are not in their individual rooms.
How can you know what your child is watching, or what web site your child is visiting or who they are speaking with through IM's if they are locked away up in their rooms, out of your view? The cell phone I can see, because I want to be able to get in touch with my children whenever they leave the house, I want them to be able to keep in touch with me also, so for the younger two lil ones of ours, they only get the cell phone when they are out of my home and out of my site. The older two were given cell phones when they, Yes! they bought their own cars, that is a security issue.
As far as piercing and hair color, they were not a big issue with me, but not until they were 16 and piercing their tongues was NOT an option! I felt as long as they dressed with respect to their bodies, I didn't care what color hair they had, but not until at least sophomore year. Phone lines in their rooms were not installed until they hit high school either.
So I can see why these over indulged children that are now young adults are having a hard time wondering what happened, there are no more quick highs anymore, the pampering has stopped but for a few, who I am sure that some time down the line the parents of those children will see the error of their ways, when that child is 30 something and still living at home, or living somewhere with the assistance of Mom and Dad's money.
Boy am I glad I raised my children the same way my Parents raised me..........you want it? you earn it!