Wednesday, June 8, 2005

Journal Jar Question 61

Question 61 ~ life after....

How do you feel about death?   What is your philosophy of the "after life?"

I know of no other way to say this then in a conversation I had a while ago with my Mother......We were discussing our wishes after we pass.

My Mother found her true love with my Father on a military base in Florida in 1957, it was a fast falling in love. They met, dated exclusively and they eloped 2 months later. Even with all of his infidelities, alcoholic abuse and even with the demise of their marriage (divorce) they still loved each other deeply, but had come to understand that they could no longer live together as man and wife.

Eventually living a fast life style and alcohol contributed to his untimely death at 41, it was too late for him to choose his wife and family over the pull of the bottle. That dream of a broken family  becoming whole again, never had a chance. He was buried with full Military honor and buried in a Catholic cemetery.

I spent time as I got older, occasionally thinking how unfair that my parents would be separated in death as much as they were in life, due to the fact that they were divorced and she wasn't Catholic.(silly Catholic cemetery rules!) After many years of thought and much consideration, I sought my Older sister's advice on how I wanted to rectify this.........I wanted to unearth my Father's remains and place them somewhere where my Mother could later join him when it was  time to. My sister agreed and then also agreed that my Older Brother was not going to be any part of it, to this day he is unable to accept my Fathers death, he won't visit the cemetery and gets angry the way I try to keep my Father's memories alive for the sake of me and my children, (the grandchildren he never met) with stories good and bad about the man I knew as Daddy.

I finally brought up the courage to talk about my Mother's  own departure from this world with her and asked how she felt about what my Sister and I wanted to do........She again with wise words said, "Your Father and I are soul mates, it does not matter where our bodies rest, because we will find each other again when the time is right and we won't need what is left of our bones, so leave your Father where he rests and just sprinkle my ashes on his grave and know that we will be together again someday"

So back to your question.............I think you soul goes where you want it to go and this death is only the beginning to something else.


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mawmellow said...

"I think your soul goes where you want it to go and this death is only the beginning to something else"...................what beautiful words and I definitely agree with your Mom......they'll be reacquainted when it's supposed to happen.  

sunnyside46 said...

that is  a lovely thought
i dont' spend too much time thinking of life after death,I figure eventually I will find out & I'm in no hurry.
I just want to live this life as lovingly as I can so I will have no regrets when it's time.

hppyplove said...

I do not fear death any more ,As I grow older and my body wears out I look farward to the day that I will leave this world,But I do belive we will give account for what we have done in this life.I belive we will stand before the Lord and he will either say well done my good and faithfull servant or he will say depart from me I never knew you, I belive the Bible is the word of God, and Gods word says that we will be like brothers and sisters ,we will know each other but we won't be husband and wife ,more like brothers and sisters in the Lord, there will be no more death or pain or sadness ,we will be praising the Lord,all it takes is for you to ask Him to come into your heart and forgive you for your sins and live the best life you can ,love one other.

vaultofsecrets said...

I guess maybe the best way I can explain my thoughts and still keeping it simple would be.....Star Dust!
I believe that life came from Stars by means of dust. Maybe a meteor and that when we die we are returned to dust.
We all revolve back into the land of our planet with our deaths and someday we all may very well be a part of another planet through Star Dust.
Evolutions of planets...we are but a second in time.

I went to check to see what other J-Landers are saying but the black words on the dark background made it to hard to see.
Would love to read it....

Wishing you health, happiness and laughter.

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brandyp0509 said...

A beautiful entry.  It makes me stop and remember how love, true love, transends all things even death.  Thanks, Brandy