Journal Jar Question 61

Question 61 ~ life after....

How do you feel about death?   What is your philosophy of the "after life?"

I know of no other way to say this then in a conversation I had a while ago with my Mother......We were discussing our wishes after we pass.

My Mother found her true love with my Father on a military base in Florida in 1957, it was a fast falling in love. They met, dated exclusively and they eloped 2 months later. Even with all of his infidelities, alcoholic abuse and even with the demise of their marriage (divorce) they still loved each other deeply, but had come to understand that they could no longer live together as man and wife.

Eventually living a fast life style and alcohol contributed to his untimely death at 41, it was too late for him to choose his wife and family over the pull of the bottle. That dream of a broken family  becoming whole again, never had a chance. He was buried with full Military honor and buried in a Catholic cemetery.

I spent time as I got older, occasionally thinking how unfair that my parents would be separated in death as much as they were in life, due to the fact that they were divorced and she wasn't Catholic.(silly Catholic cemetery rules!) After many years of thought and much consideration, I sought my Older sister's advice on how I wanted to rectify this.........I wanted to unearth my Father's remains and place them somewhere where my Mother could later join him when it was  time to. My sister agreed and then also agreed that my Older Brother was not going to be any part of it, to this day he is unable to accept my Fathers death, he won't visit the cemetery and gets angry the way I try to keep my Father's memories alive for the sake of me and my children, (the grandchildren he never met) with stories good and bad about the man I knew as Daddy.

I finally brought up the courage to talk about my Mother's  own departure from this world with her and asked how she felt about what my Sister and I wanted to do........She again with wise words said, "Your Father and I are soul mates, it does not matter where our bodies rest, because we will find each other again when the time is right and we won't need what is left of our bones, so leave your Father where he rests and just sprinkle my ashes on his grave and know that we will be together again someday"

So back to your question.............I think you soul goes where you want it to go and this death is only the beginning to something else.

 

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