Thursday, June 30, 2005

Cuz, it matters to me

Trying to live my life to the best of my ability often has me reevaluating everything past and present. So here I sit today at 42, wondering what really matters to me. What are the few things that have my head and my heart at the same time. When I look around me, I see many things that are nice to have and bring a bit of joy to my life, but if they were suddenly taken away from me, would that devastate me?

Death is inevitable, but when it comes before we are expecting it through an illness, we feel robbed..... robbed of time..... robbed of life experience..... robbed of fairness...... imminent death has a way of putting things in perspective. Things we thought meant everything to us, now just fall by the way side. We care not of the things we found grand in life, fancy homes, fancy cars and finer things, we care about the small things. The hand drawn cards and clay ash trays made from the small hands of our children, the sentiment, the REAL sentiment of a wedding ring, moments in time forever immortalized through the art of photography and video.

So many things we loose over time........ memories, sights and sounds of our own childhood, but sometimes it comes back when we least expect it to, like the far off sound of the Ice Cream truck can bring us back to our past. I remember a commercial from a few years ago, it had to do with domestic violence and it showed a small child hidden in the darkness of a stair case, listening and possibly watching what was taking place below and instantly I was taken back to my own childhood, That was me at the top of the stairs listening to what my Mother was going through, I remember always having run to the bathroom to urinate several times in the matter of minutes while all this was taking place, the fear.... was that strong, and as I sat there trapped in my past watching that commercial I felt the need to run to the bathroom, just as I did as a small child. If we want things to change then we have to become part of the change. I made sure my children grew up in a house that was safe of addictions and domestic violence....it was my childhood and I didn't want it to be a part of theirs. I married a good man who knew that true love never hurts.


In the end the circle of life continues and what matters in the end is how you loved and how you were loved back. In my lifetime I have known only a few of the 2 generations of my family that came before me (parents and grandparents) and if I am lucky I will have the continuous pleasure of knowing my own children and possibly know my future grandchildren.......with the hope that I might even know a great-grandchild or two.....the generations of my family after that will not know me and I will just be an old photograph but I know my job now is to leave this place a better place than I found it.

I am trying to slow my life down enough to relish what means the most to me now....My Husband Jim and my Children and enjoy the many small and large things around my world.......the sentiments of my wedding ring, butterflies, rainbows, the warm smile from a stranger, the sound of laughter, the company of good friends, the keeper of the family stories, music that transports me to my past and then safely returns me to the present, a warm and windy night, belly laughs, the ability to discover myself over and over again and like what I see.......these are but a few things that matter to me.

8 comments:

gdireneoe said...

WOW!  This is why I stay home withmy kiddies...I want to relish/cherish every moment I can.  I have always said that THIS is the shortest time in ones life...the time with your children...no matter how old they get.                    C.

judithheartsong said...

what a good post. judi

hadonfield78 said...

You are a beautiful person, with a warm and loving heart, and a wise and keen mind.

awen1122 said...

I think out of all of J-Land this could very well be one of my absolute favorite journal entries Kim!  Beautiful!!!

Hugs!
Kell

myheartsaysso2 said...

Excellent entry.. I think that it's great that you are .. willing to see things.. as though.. nothing matters except the little things in life.. So great! Good attitude as well.. I was also a child abuse victim myself .. not sexually but physically and boy it was tough .. I make sure that my life is nothing like that .. at all.. my future step kiddies ...don't know what that is like nor will my own biological child(when I have one) ever know something like that.. My fiancee is a great man.. not violent at all.. I like your journal .. feel free to stop by mine..

http://journals.aol.com/MyHeartSaysSo2/WhereTheHeartIs

Melaney

courtenaymphelan said...

THIS IS WHAT I LOVE ABOUT YOU KOMBERLEIGH...A BEAUTIFUL HEART ...A BEAUTIFUL MIND ,,,AND BEAUTIFUL WORDS ...YOU ARE ALWAYS RIGHT ON TARGET AND SO FILLED WITH UNIVERSAL TRUTH...CMP

astaryth said...

Beautiful entry!

sunnyside46 said...

every moment just comes once
Marti