Wednesday, April 11, 2007

A really great quote!

"You gain strength, courage, and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face.... You must do the thing you think you cannot do."
--Eleanor Roosevelt--

If someone would have told me how at some point in my life I would have to dig deep and overcome things that I never thought I could  overcome..... I would have never believed them.

I don't like to be sick, when I was sick before BC (Before Cancer) I sure did whine and complain about it. I have always been on the feisty side so nothing ever kept me down for long, but I remember thinking I didn't think I could handle anything sicker than a flu or something. Often I hear from people that  don't think they could be as strong as I am in the face of dealing with cancer once and then quickly again...I never thought I would be able to be this strong either...I thought I would whine and complain and whoa is me and lock myself up in my room and wait for death to come claim me. That quote above holds the truth.....Now if this was Jim (everybody knock on wood!) I know I would crumble and die...but it's me and I love him so very much so I am not about to give up and abandon the life and love we have for one another. Nothing would be sadder for me to have to walk along my path in life without him by my side...I could not even imagine going 10, 20, 30 or 40 more years without that man.....not even a day.....and I now that he feels the same way I do....So he is my drive, my strength to get through what I have already been through with cancer and chemo and what I still have in my path ahead of me.

Many nights we lay in bed face to face, looking into each others faces and talk about our life together....past, present and future and we have more conversations in the dark about important matters than I think we ever do by the light of day...maybe that's because life gets busy during the day and we don't have time for those kind of moments...we have the kids to deal with, and he works extremely hard to provide and give the gift of me being able to stay home and raise our own children... we have a full social life that keeps us busy and very happy....so it's those times in the dark that we have those moments....those conversations...the time to tell each other how happy we make one another.

He has given me the perfect life...."My" perfect life...there is not anything that I am lacking, Iam spoiled rotten, have been all my life and he knew that before and he married me anyway! lol He spoils me more than I ever was before and I adore him! I remember there was a time when all the guys were giving him a hard time about just how spoiled I really am and even though they meant no harm by it, he felt the need to "Check" them.....he told them she is the most important person/thing in his life, why wouldn't I want to see her happy? I make Kim happy because I can and because I love her and she gives back just as much.....that kinda made them re-evaluate their own marriages and how they very rarely put their own wives first...and it shut them up for good! lol...as just two people we are far from perfect, but we are perfect for each other and that's all that matters!

My Philosophy on a good, strong marriage has always been...I put him before me and his needs are met and he puts me before him and my needs are met.....both of us are looked after and taken care of and loved immensely for doing so....works for the both of us! Ü

I am a very lucky woman to have that man at my side, but I think many of you who know me very well....also know that I would have never settled for anyone less than My Jim!.....I'm sucha stinka! lol lol lol

22 comments:

rdautumnsage said...

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thegirlnexdoor77 said...

When I read your love for each other...I believe there are really great love stories it the world and yours is one of them..thank you for sharing your love with us!  have a great day and sending prayers!  Hugs,TerryANn

nhd106 said...

Yes, in many ways, you are fortunate...but mostly fotunate because you have the ability to be grateful.
I relate to that wonderful quote too...I never thought I could survive the loss of my mom.

Nancy

barbpinion said...

I have always loved that quote too; leaned upon it when facing difficult situations. YOU are blessed to have such an awesome hubby. I am too! Praying for you, hon.
Barb- http://journals.aol.com/barbpinion/HEYLETSTALK
       http://journals.aol.com/barbpinion/THERESTOFTHESTORY

mariebm56 said...

Your husband gets it!  Very few men do.  They never understand that a marriage is equal, that two people need to try to make each other happy.  It is mutual, & he said the right thing to his friends & I hope THEY learned from it.
You guys are perfectl match!
Thank you for sharing your great wisdom!
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bmorrrick said...

Hi Kim,

I know exactly what you mean about being married to the perfect person for you. I cannot imagine my life without my DH.  Sorry I haven't been commenting, I'll send an email to explain.
I'm keeping you in my daily prayers.

Take Care,
~Bilinda~

aims814 said...

Hi, I don't think I've wandered into your journal before. Thank you for leaving a comment and your link in mine. I'm happy to have found your journal and am book marking it and adding you to my alerts.

I nodded my head throughout this entry. In so many ways I can relate.

Oh, and I needed to hear that quote you posted today.  (thanks)

Blessings to y'all!

ajquinn354 said...

Yes Kim, you are so lucky to have Jim by your side, but I know he feels the same way.  You two have something extra special and beautiful and that will see you through anything. Bless you both.....Arlene (AJ)

kirkbyj05 said...

A lot of people only dream of what you and Jim have and never acheive it, when the secret is there in front of them all the time....To love one another.   It is that simple.  
May God always bless you and your family with love...

Jeanie

bookncoffee said...

Such a nice entry...nice of your Hubby to enjoy spoiling you and to tell the guys to check their own marriages.  Good for him. he he

lanurseprn said...

You are very lucky to have found him!  That reason alone is worth this fight you are waging.
Pam

gandsbrock said...

*sigh*  I've said it before, you're the most romantic couple I know.  Savor it.  (I know you do)
Stephanie

inafrnz247 said...

Beautiful words that moved me to tears...  For the love, for the life and for the happiness that you are so eternally blessed with.  I never thought I would listen to the words of someone battling such a horrid disease and think, "How lucky they are..."  What's even more beautiful is that you KNOW, and that you so deeply value your blessings and understand in your heart, as does Jim, how amazing your love for one another really is.  

You are also a blessing to me, Kim.  Thank you.

Hugs and blessings,

Michelle

inafrnz247 said...

If you are okay with it, I'd like to use this quote in my next (long overdue) journal entry...  It is SO relative to my life right now.  Please let me know if you object in any way.  THANKS!

Chelle
http://journals.aol.com/inafrnz247/Reflections/
http://journals.aol.com/inafrnz247/MoreReflections/

wickedpink64 said...

There is nothing else on earth that compares to spending everyday and night with your soulmate and best friend! I feel very blessed that I have this - and it would seem so do you! As you say, THAT is the best reason of all to fight this evil cancer!

Hugs

Wendy in Oz

tendernoggle said...

You know....You are sooooo right....Most of mine and Danny's major decisions were made in our bed...when we too would talk face to face at night...when we were finally alone....and I miss that more than anything...This old bed feels mighty big now...
Take care,
love ya,
carlene

princesssaurora said...

Sounds like you two have the right recipe for the two of you!!!  

I hope your biopsy went well today... sending you prayers...

be well,
Dawn
http://journals.aol.com/princesssaurora/CarpeDiem/

plieck30 said...

My Mel and I did our talking and planning late at night on the front porch. Doesn't matter where you do as long as you do it. I'm glad we had that as he has been gone a looong time now. Paula

helmswondermom said...

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psychfun said...

You are extremely lucky! I have found that people who say others are spoiled are just jealous! I don't mean that meanly & we can all say that there may be a line to draw but most often it is because they do not have someone treating them so lovely or they do not find in their heart the desire (shame) to treat someone that way. You're extremely lucky. Hard to find those wonderful guys! :-)

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sunnyside46 said...

what a wonderful tribute to a great love
Marti
http://journals.aol.com/sunnyside46/MidlifeMusings