Now, since I was a child of divorce myself I knew exactly what was the right thing to do for the innocent children involved and the wrong thing to do when innocent children are involved. As much as I loved Jim, Melissa was to be protected and loved at all costs........I married an honorable man, those were his intentions also. There was only one time where it wasn't his most shining moment and I will call him out on it later on in an entry about all of this.
Just a few facts before I get started - She wanted the divorce, she filed for it, she wanted to have 'fun' again, he finally agreed after finding her parked down the end of their block after a late night out with her girlfriends having 'fun' in the front seat of their car with someone who was not her husband or a girlfriend. She filed in June of 1985 and neither of them would move out........(think war of the roses) she finally vacated the home in November of 1985. The smartest thing they did at this time was let Melissa spend a lot of time at her grandparents home. I am sure she saw more and heard more than they ever thought she did.......kids are sponges they absorb everything around them....I know for a fact after many dicussions that it altered who she was to become.
And for those that are curious but their Momma's taught them better than that, so coming right out and asking the question "Was I the reason for the divorce?" The answer is no, although I knew them I did not know them well, I didn't even come into the picture until April of 1986 as a key player in all of this. Most women with any sense or lack of a stubborn streak would have kept right on going after the 1st incident, but I loved him and I was not going to let her get in the way of our happiness.
The marriage ended badly for PSYCHOLOGICAL reasons............she was psycho and he was logical..........(gotta love that! lol lol lol)
I'll try to remember every "incident" in the right order, but hey I'm human, I make mistakes. Isn't it funny how you might not remember every good thing that has happened to you in your life, but you can remember every bad thing with complete clarity!
So she (DH's 1st Wife) wants us to put everything behind us now, at least for the sake of Melissa and her upcoming wedding in Jamaica.........
Here is just a few things that happened before I even came into the picture.......
How about the time she saw Jim with another girlfriend (after separation, all will be after legal separation) waiting at a stop light while she was pumping gas on her way to work and without warning ran into the street, opened the passenger door and hauled this poor unsuspecting woman out into the street and pounced on her? Jim acted quickly in separating the two and with getting Kendall (woman he was seeing) back into the safety of the car before 1st wife could do anymore damage. Now you tell me, was that for Melissa's sake? There was another incident with another woman which ended badly with her (Donna, another woman Jim dated) getting kicked down the front steps by the 1st wife who had come by the house unexpectedly to announce to Jim that she wanted him back and that she was moving back home.......news to him! Cops were called yet again.....best interest of Melissa huh?
Tip of the iceberg people, tip of the iceberg! lol lol lol