Grass is always greener

Funny how things are sometimes huh?

Its the single person who sometimes wonders what it would feel like to be married, while the ones who are married sometimes wonder what it would feel like to be single again.

It's the couple who's married and a lil overwhelmed with children who reminisce about the easier, less stressful days before the children came along. And it's the married couple who has yet to experience parenthood who look at couples with kids and thinks someday I hope to be that lucky to have a family of my own!

It's the person who thinks it would be great to be my own boss, that way at work there won't be anyone telling them how to do things and  then there is the person who owns the company who says, "Gee wouldn't it be nice to be able to pass along all the problems and just punch out on the time clock!"

Its the young couple in new love who looks at the couple that have been together for decades and decades and thinks they can only hope for a love that old and the older couple that glances at the young couple and sighs and says....."Young love, wasn't it grand!"

It's the Mother who's children who have grown and left the nest that looks at a the Mother with small children and secretely wishes hers were still that young and the Mother of the young children who is looking back at the other woman with a tinge of jealousy wondering how wonderful it must feel having that kind of freedom again! 

It's the person who feels trapped in an apartment who longs for a place of their own and then there is the home owner who wishes they had a landlord to take on all the burdens of owning the home.

It's the tall person who wishes they were just a lil shorter and the shorter person who wishes they were just a lil taller, it's the brunette who wonders what it's like to be a blonde and it's the blonde who would kill for a shade in brunette or red or even black. It's the blue eyed person who wishes they had big soft brown eyes and it's the brown eye person who wishes for the baby blues.

I think everybody at some point in their life has wished for something different, It's only natural to do so.........BUT you also have to be able to see what you DO have and find peace with that, But most of all be thankful for the things you have been blessed with.

My Mother's curse is upon me (again)

Ok..... I thought I would get a longer "LULL" in between the teribble "TEEN yEARS" but..... Oh lucky me! My last two lil ones are right on time.

Just when I thought either "I DID IT ALL-SEEN IT ALL" or at least my 2 oldest children attempted to try and get away with something(They are 19 and 22 respectfully now....WHEWWWW!) when my youngest who will be 13 this spring blew me outta the water!

I go to log on to another AOL screen name that I use just for friends and family so I my blog in peace and my password comes back invalid.....Hmmmmm...How can this be??? Uhhhh maybe my son attempted to hack my password and then was brought to the AOL Security Question page where he bypassed the "Security" question and went through my personal papers and retrieved the account information numbers that he needed to set up a new password and continued to change my profile AND make up a homepage??? Yes........he did!

Now when I go and wake him from his pre-teen late saturday morning sleep in and ask him "HOW" he did this, with a smug look on his face and a tone I surely would of been killed for if used in front of my parents at his age....He say's "Cus I'm a genuis! (when in actuality he is 3 points off of genuis) I am stunned silent........(No mere feat mind you!)

Now when I was younger, I was wild, sneaky and deviate and quite excellent at it, but I was only of above average intelligence........He's almost a genuis.....How do I work with that, while trying to make sure he stays safe long enough to become an adult??

So......So far the consequences of this on top of another "Computer infraction" is his screen name is on lock down, he is grounded and has lost phone priviledges, he is going to take over his sisters chores on the fine art of vacuuming AND dusting......but what I want to know now is how do I keep this half pint genuis from logging on the computer at all?? Is there a keyboard that I can buy that has a lock? Kids his age are more than willing to give up their own passwords to their screen names and all he has to do is sign on as a guest at home with their information, so just deleting his screen name will not solve anything.....Any suggestions that will not cause me to get arrested for child endangerment would be sincerely appreciated!

So far they have never been able to get away with too much because I was such a wild child myself, but then again.....They didn't have Personal Computers around when I was a mischief maker.....Oh the curses my Mother put on me growing up about "May you have a child just like you!" are ringing true now.......but did I have to get cursed with more than one of me?????? lol   HELP!!!!!!! PLEASE FEEL FREE TO EMAIL ME WITH SUGGESTIONS.

Big Fun.......Tonight

I am soooo excited! I just can't hide and I know, I know, I know that I want..........Japanese food.........lalalalalala

It's another one of my girlfriend's birthday's and us along with 5 other couples are going to my favorite Japanese Restaurant. The food is prepared like a beautifully orchestrated performance, Everything is prepared for you right there at your hibachi table served in courses. The chef chops and dices at the spead of light, flips shrimp into your mouth like your a seal begging at a water show and can flip an egg over and over without cracking it, to then only turn the cooking tool on the side balanced perfectly over the soon to be pork fried rice and adds the contents of the egg. The Sushi is always fresh (not that I will try it.....nope.... never...I don't even like cook fish let alone raw.......yikesssss!) The saki is always........interesting... and the yolk sauce that you can request for your lobster and shrimp is enough to give you an......(not going there! lol)

The second best part of the night is the karaoke bar, after knocking back some Saki and some Kirin beer (16 oz bottle of beer?) and a meal so satisfying that you'll want to tell everyone you know about the place, then it's off to see who can embarrass themselves the most in the karaoke bar! Sometimes we win hands down and sometime you think that "other" person makes you sound GOOD!!!! lol

This is our last group off friends that have yet to experience Japanese food at it's finest here in the Burbs of Chicago. The first time we found it was by complete accident......It was New Years Eve and of course we waited to long to make any reservations, so me AKA Sara Bernhardt, (Silent screen star) except that I am no where near the silent type, bluffed our way into prime time dinner reservations at 7:00 P.M. for a party of 10! I gave that old "What do you mean you don't have me down on your list? I made this reservation 3 weeks ago! (this always works! Nobody wants to see me mad AND loud!!!! lol)........my bad!

We had basically taken over the kareoke machine by the end of the night and finally after spending almost 7 hours between the dinner and the bar, the Bartender came out from behind the bar and ripped the microphone out of my hand, and I was right at the beginning of my tribute to Sinatra's "My kind of town Chicago is" and said to me, (pardon my bad impression of the Japanese dialect on the English laanguage) "Bloss say you no more sing!!!!!! Bloss say you go home now!" where I proceeded to rip the microphone back out of this mans hands and said, "You tell bloss I said NO! You tell bloss he goes home now!!!!" Needless to say I never got to finish my song.........lmaooooooo

Apparently my daughter didn't get her beautiful gift of song from me, but I don't care.......we had a blast!!!!!! And I woke up the next morning with tiny little colorful drink umbrella's stuck in my hair!!! Ha Ha Ha...My so called friends!!!! And my Husband let me walk around like that all night for how long?????

And since I either have no sense or no shame, I continue to bring new friends for the great Japanese food and atmosphere and I think the "Bloss" loves me now! lol

Some stuff I still gotta do! Ü

I still have a huge list of things I want and/or need to do before I get to old to enjoy any of it! Here is just a few things that are at the top of the list.

One of these days I will actually sign up for an art class and really see if there is a latent talent for painting hidden somewhere deep inside me (I'm hoping this is true of course!) I'm kinda on the artsy side and some of the things that pertain to it come naturally to me...I'm just afraid to find out that I can't paint and then this secret hope that I can paint will be gone forever........What a bubble burster that will be!

I still want to get my nose pierced, YES I SAID I WANT MY NOSE PIERCED! But Hubby is still reeling over the tattoo I had strategically placed on my posterior of a Kelly Green four leaf clover 8 years ago, I really think he would either put me in a hospital for "rest" or sign me up for a freak show if I actually do get my nose pierced. I'm not looking to sell marketing space on ebay with a shingle hanging from my nose, I just want a really teeny tiny marcasite stone, no bigger than a freckle as my preferred choice of nose jewelry.

I still have a long list of things around America I want to see, I want to take the kids and go see Mount Rushmore, I want to run around the Redwood Forest up in Northern California, I want to Balloon Ride over the Grand Canyon, and I still want to vacation in an old spooky castle! My list of things that I have already experienced from this Wish List is, I have swam in both of the surrounding oceans, I have crawled around the catskill mountains, I have seen Niagra Falls, I have lived in another country (England), and I have cruised down to Mexico, I have been to Sin City and sinned just a little and I have walked in the desert and I have gone cave exploring. I used to want to go scuba diving and wander around the underwater world, but the thought of me now in a wet suite, would depress me for the rest of my life! Nope...just can't even go there in my mind!

Now on a more personal level I can't wait to live alone with my Husband! Since we both came into our relationship with 2 small children, and then adding 2 of our own, we have yet to be alone. It's hard to call what we did "Dating" because who actually dates with two children tagging along? We are soooooooo looking forward to being able to be completely, utterly alone! It almost makes me blush at the thought of it! But then again I'm not a blushing kinda gal!

Oh the possibilities!

Birch Tree in Photo and Prose

                                

Oh how I love the birch tree......with its green leaves of summer and its fragile branches forever dropping on the whim of the wind. It lets in just enough of the flickering light of summer to dapple across the lush dew on the morning grass.  How elegant it looks still, with its peeling layers curled open, exposing itself, for all who cares to see. Nothing can compare to the brilliance of the "Sun Yellow" the leaves turn against its white washed trunk, with the approach of Fall, but it is always the trunk of the tree that appeals to me most, much like the heart of a woman, deep with many layers, waiting for someone to take notice and celebrate its inner beauty.

 

 

Momma Bear

Often when I feel the need to write but I can't find something I can write about passionately, I go to the boards......I find something that sparks a memory, or an idea.......or find the inspiration that I need to make an entry. I found today's story in another fellow journal's blog about school bullies.

Rewind back to 1989, I'm a single parent of a 3 1/2 year old little girl, who I would surely give my life for. I enrolled her in the same preschool that my soon to be step daughter was enrolled at 2 years earlier. After the 4th day, this normally happy go lucky child, was reluctant about going to preschool now. After prodding her to tell me why, she told me there is a lil boy there who is mean to her and every morning after I walk out the front door he slaps her. I later found out that same day that the teachers have scolded him for this the first time he hit her....my BIG question was why wasn't I told about this the first time!!!

He hit her on her first day, then again on the second day where a phone call was placed to his parents, he hit her again on the 3rd day......it was the next day that she finally told me.......when I brought her into the school on the 4th day, I talked to her teachers, I talked to the School Director, I was assured that the matter was taken care of and that he would never hit my child again............WRONG!

This time the lil boy didn't even wait for me to walk out the door and right when my hand was on the door to leave.....I heard the "Crack" then as only a Mother knows....I heard the cry of my child!

In less than 3 seconds and after hurdling a few children sitting on the floor I got down to eye level with this child........I looked him straight in the eyes and said, "Touch my daughter again and I will beat the HELL out of your Mother" He never touched her again for the remainder of the 2 weeks it took me to find a suitable replacement preschool.

It was so UN-PC that it wasn't funny....but then again it got the result that the school, the teachers, the school director and obviously his parents couldn't get!

Signed,
Momma Bear..............lol lol lol

0 for 3

Has this ever happened to you........not only said the wrong thing once to somebody but several times not knowing of course until it was too late??  Oh well.......I guess if everybody liked me, I'd have to run for President of the United States.......good thing I don't have to huh?? lol

Let me set this up for you.......We are at a formal Dinner party at a friends house, She has invited her Sister's and Brother-in laws and a few other "couple" friends of her siblings......

Faux pau (1)
Some how the conversation during cocktails came up about entertaining at home and what a host expects from there guests....you know like you don't expect someone to go through your medicine chest in the bathroom, but apparently there are quite a few people that just can't help themselves while they are in there! lol My lil thing is even though I expect my family to remove their shoes at the front door, I WOULD NEVER ask a guest to leave their shoes at the door. My reasoning is if you are inviting someone to your home, you should make sure they feel comfortable at all times and some people aren't comfortable removing their shoes. Well, I guess it struck a cord with another guest at this party, lets call her Uptight Annie .....(oops my bad!) She says, "Well I ask guests to remove their shoes at the door because I HAVE WHITE CARPET" I'm thinking OK, but I still wouldn't ask my guests to remove their shoes.....a few minutes pass and I guess she still felt she had to justify to me why she has to do this so she follows up with, "Plus I have a stone driveway and there is always so much dirt and dust!" Now I'm politely smiling and STILL thinking, "Hey to each their own but I would still never ask a guest to remove their shoes" Uptight Annie seems to be put off by my silence to her reasoning.....Oh well!

Faux Pau (2) During the appetizer stage of this Formal Dinner, my Husband is going on and on over this Liver Pate and in his usual cajoling in trying to get me to try new foods, he's like come' on just try it, Nope not gonna.......just one bite.....nope can't make me......why?........Cuz I don't eat body organs......now everyone laughs but Uptight Annie.......why you ask.......cuz she's the one who made the liver pate appetizer!.........OOOPS MY BAD (again) 0 for 2 if anyone is keeping score......LOL!

Faux Pau (3) During dinner the talk with the men turns "Shop" and My husband works for General Motors so I'm kinda spoiled by getting a new suburban every six months...the hostess (my girlfriend) calls me a BRAT and asks me if I like my newest one....I say," It's OK, but it has blue interior leather seats and I just don't think blue and leather go together!"....it's just my personal opinion...not meant to offend anyone.....well guess what?..........who has blue leather furniture on her white carpet in her house that has a rock driveway who happens to eat body organs????........you got it.......UPTIGHT ANNIE

It's official.......I can't run for President of the United States
I am now 0 for 3.......Oh well, Life goes on! lol lol lol