Wednesday, August 25, 2004

The power of denial

Some days I get my inspiration on what to do in my journal by simply reading the message board and pick a topic from there.........so here goes


The one subject line that moved me today was about a young woman's journal on divorce......it made me acutely aware of how powerful "DENIAL" can be...........


Denial can come in the form of a mirror or an unusually tight pair of jeans.  It is said that when someone battling Anorexia looks into a mirror, all they see is a grossly over weight person even if they now weigh as much as a 10 year old.  Well I seem to have something completely opposite of that and I wonder if there is a "NEW DISORDER" out there that makes one who looks into the dreadful full length mirror and see a "not so bad "reflection even though the birth of ones children has left them looking nothing like who they looked like B.C. (before childbirth) LOL


Denial can come in the form of a cigarette (hear me out I'm an ex-smoker 19 years waaaahooooo)! LOL  For the last 20 years or so study after study has proved that there is no redeeming benefits for deliberately lighting up a small cylinder shaped paper with an inadequate filter on one end while the other end is jammed full of smelly tobacco loaded with cancer causes agents and a few other ingredients proved recently to keep one addicted to them then lighting them up with get this (butane gas???) which HAS to find its way into ones body too at some point then deliberately taking "SMOKE" into ones own lungs.  The last thing anybody would ever do before running into a burning building is to take a huge breath of smoke right??? and as far as the "CANCER EFFECT" who in their right mind would inhale radiation fumes on a daily basis...hugged a Nuclear reactor lately???


Denial can come in the beginning of the end of a marriage too.  Your spouse stops coming home at night,  then gives you lame excuses you would never accept from your"late" teenager and/or get away with,  then becomes cold and distant and then on top of it all has YOU believing its all your fault! The reason I know this first hand was watching it happen in my parents marriage......The truth came out in the end.......her name was "Kathy" and that is who my father walked away from his Wife of 18 years, his 3 children and his home.......the end result cost him his life, in an indirect and sometimes direct way.


Yes denial is a POWERFUL thing



 

5 comments:

mzgoochi said...

I'll give an, Amen Sister!!!

Lahoma :O)

imakehimknown said...

I have found that with denial, almost always, I actually knew what I was denying deep down.   After the fact I can look at things I say I knew that.   I guess it is our mind and/or hearts way of saying we can't deal with something right now?  You are right, it is very powerful!
Bethany

sdoscher458 said...

You are so right in your comments.  I like your writing and I'm glad I found your journal...putting you on favorites...please visit mine at http://journals.aol.com/sdoscher458/LifeIsFullOfSurprises...thanks Sandi

kimbellina1957 said...

YOU ARE SO VERY VERY RIGHT ABOUT DENIAL. ITS A HARD THING TO DEAL WITH ISNT IT? I THINK WE ALL HAVE GONE THROUGH IT AT ONE TIME OR ANOTHER. I KNOW I HAVE ON MORE THAN ONE OCCASION.
KIM.

deutscruber said...

I find the best way to get out of de nile, is to swim like mad to the banks of de nile.