Thursday, November 10, 2005

Timing is everything! Even with love!

The first time I saw my now Husband, was in a bar (1981). Grant it I was under age by 3 years, but I had only stopped in because one of my girlfriends Mother owned the bar and another one of my girlfriends was dating a regular of the bar. The bar door had a bell above it and when someone walked in and the bar wasn't too noisy everyone would turn to see who just walked it.

We entered, the bells rang, the guys that were sitting at the bar all turned to see who came in and that's when my heart almost burst through my chest. You know that feeling, it is thrilling and terrifying at the same time. The introductions were made and he didn't look twice at me (something that I wasn't used to, but understood when my girl friend told me he's off limits, he's married!) It was like window shopping to me....liked it! wanted it! But I was not going to get it! lol Married men are taboo.....call me old fashioned! But I told my girlfriends who looked at me like I was nuts and said to them, "I am going to marry that man someday!"

Over the next 3 years we ran into each other a lot, I took off with a new love to New York but was in town a lot and Jim still never paid attention to me. To a girl who's Father could not honor his marriage vows from the start, I found this man (Jim) to be an honorable husband. By the beginning of 1985 I was through with New York and moved back home I needed to finish growing up and my Boyfriend, who I left behind in New York, loved me enough to let me go and do that, the door would always be open.

By the Spring of 1985 I ran into Jim again, it was like he noticed me for the first time, I could tell by the way he looked at me, (come on girls we know the difference when a man looks at us and then LOOKS at us! lol) During our first few minute of conversation of How you been? how is life treating you? I found out that Jim's marriage was over, divorce papers were filed and he was going through the same stages in life as I was at trying to figure out who he was and were he was going. We were to meet later for drinks after his softball game was over, but signals were crossed and we both waited at two different bars, thinking the other person just blew us off.

In life timing is everything, from the first time I saw him, my heart called out to him and patiently waited for a response, we did not see or speak to each other again until spring of 1986. He had run into some friends of mine who had told him how I felt about him all these years and even my girl friend who first introduced us told him how I said I was going to marry him someday........and on that day the stars finally lined up, we both no longer belonged to someone else and he called me and asked if he could take me out to dinner.

At first I had no idea who was on the other end of the phone, when I returned his call, just a message, Hi Kim this is Jim, could you please return my call? I called him back and when he asked me over for dinner, I still had to ask if I even knew him and he said, "I hope so you are supposed to marry me someday!" Right then I knew who it was, dropped the phone, danced around my kitchen for a minute, then casually picked up the phone and said "Yes" to dinner.....its been kismet ever since.

Many times before that call our paths crossed, but it wasn't our time to be. I believe that if we would of started this love affair at any time sooner than we did, it would not have lasted all these years. It was finally the right time, our time and even today when I look at him, I think that even if I just met him at this time, I would still fall in love at first sight and say to myself, "I'm going to marry that man someday!" That's how you know if it's forever love.......when you keep falling in love with the same person over and over again, that is what keeps old love new.

What a gift that is and I am thankful!

20 comments:

my3gifts said...

I LOVE this entry! I love it.

God Bless
Christy http://journals.aol.com/my3gifts/ChristysThoughts/
http://journals.aol.com/my3gifts/TalesfromtheFrontandtheonesleftB/

hadonfield78 said...

That is one of most beautiful and emotionally touching entries I have ever read. I just loved how you knew he was worth waiting for. I am so so glad that your dreams came true. There is magic in the air and love all around.
Thank you for writing this. It has really opened up some great warm feelings within my soul.

gdireneoe said...

You know how when something strikes that chord?...and you chill all over?  I'm chillin'.  This is SO Capn' and I...all over again and again. ;)  C.  http://journals.aol.com/gdireneoe/thedailies

rap4143 said...

I'm an old romantic by heart.  Love your story!!!
Betty

heathyrxmarie said...

Awww, sweetie!  What a beautiful story!
Hugs,
Heather

cneinhorn said...

How wonderful!  Hubby and I met when I was 18 but we didn't start dating until ten years later....it's all in the timing isn't it?

sdoscher458 said...

That's a great story...and I like happy endings. He sounds like a great hubby...Sandi

ashleekr said...

http://journals.aol.com/ashleekr/TheTellingofMe/

Mentioned you in my entry - thought you might want to stop by!
Love, Ashlee

judithheartsong said...

Oh! I like this love story. Thanks for telling it and I am delighted he was an honorable man. Once a cheater always a cheater (which the women who may date my x will learn). I have been way behind in journals... it is so good to be back here:) judi

astaryth said...

Awwwwwww..... Now that's a romantic story!
http://journals.aol.com/astaryth/AdventuresofanEclecticMind

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jlocorriere05 said...

Just found your journal, thanks for stopping by mine. You sound so happy with your husband, it's great to hear about people being in love in this day and age!! Jeannette. http://journals.aol.co.uk/jlocorriere05/Welcometomytravels

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plieck30 said...

You sure tell a pretty story. Paula

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rjet33 said...

What a wonderful story.  I also have how I met my husband of the last 27 years in my journal.

http://journals.aol.com/rjet33/CountryLivingSouthernStyle/entries/1365

And my tribute to him on our 27th wedding anniversary:

http://journals.aol.com/rjet33/CountryLivingSouthernStyle/entries/1562

I love your journal, it is great.  Have saved it to my favorites. :)

Blessings!~
Susan
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http://journals.aol.com/rjet33/MyPicturePostcardJournal/
http://journals.aol.com/rjet33/JourneyThroughTheValleyofShadows/
http://journals.aol.com/rjet33/MyFurBabies/

dentonca1 said...

When you see it, you know it. You just know it.  Now, if I can only see the red flags and pay attention to them so I don't keep making the same mistakes in character judgement.  When the time is right, I want everything to be right.  I've been in a marriage with a very difficult person enough.  I want it all next time -- hot passion, love that keeps on going, and fidelity.  That still sounds like an impossible dream.  It will be amazing to see it happen!

tinks194 said...

that story was awesome its weird how your intution just knows something like that but fate finally puts it together great story its better knowing that its true and it can actually happen

ohhev said...

I loved this entry and could relate.I had a similar reaction to a man I met almost 6 years ago and still see fairly regularly. We are both married. He is going thru divorce and I have been putting it (divorce) off for years. I would love to think our time wll come.